Sometimes we are so involved in ourselves that we forget the existence of universe around us. This kind of narcissism leads into self-destructing patterns. It’s like a loop the more you get involved in to yourself the more narcissist you become and it will lead to self-destruction. Many a times it happens, people are so involved in their problems desperately seeking their way out, asking help to others. Sometimes this help works sometimes it won’t. If you see this problem from third person point of view then you will realize the solution is hidden in yourself only. Just like waves of sea.
If you observe the sea waves, it looks quite disturbing and damaging, the more you resist these waves the more it will push you away sometimes even push you two steps backwards and if you face it too aggressively it will make more damages to you. But if you see the very own nature of these waves when it reaches the seashore; it brings all kind of impurities, some ocean stuff too, making the water turbid. But if you wait for a second or two the same stuff gets settle and the water becomes transparent. Now you can see the real depth of the water. The wave is same but the nature is totally different. The incoming wave was bit of aggressive or destructive in nature while the descending wave looks quite soothing to eyes.
Same is the condition with us when we are surrounded by the problems. As the wave of problem starts it looks disturbing, because nobody likes problems in this world. We want problem to exit from our happy life so we react to it very quickly. Problem is same as that of waves. If you try to react too soon it may damage you. But if you wait for time let the things get settle and then respond the chances are less, of you getting damaged as well as other person involved in the problem. Soon everything gets clear just like the waves on its way back to ocean. Then you realize situation wasn’t that much difficult as it seen initially.
After facing lot of such problems a person asked a monk, “why do bad things happen to good people?” the monk replied, “how do you expect me to reply your question, when question itself is wrong? The question should be ‘what happens to good people when bad things happen to them’ and reply would be, ‘They become better people’!”. It is our attitude towards problem decided whether it will break us or make us. It is our thinking that decides the pace of our progress, and our thinking can be directed right if only we know how to ask the right questions.